Tips to get Pregnant with Twins

Tip # 1. To get pregnant faster have sex three times a week.

Having regular sex is the best way to get pregnant right away. Couples often try to time everything perfectly for ovulation but do not have sex when they think they are not ovulating. It is true that sex that is not within the time of ovulation will not result in pregnancy. However, because women do not always ovulate when they think they will, having sex three times a week will help a woman to cover her bases, so to speak, and not miss an opportunity to get pregnant.

Tip # 2. To get pregnant faster use an ovulation prediction kit or fertility monitor.

Using an ovulation kit (or opk) to predict when you are ovulating will improve your chances of getting pregnant. For many women charting or other methods of ovulation prediction are too confusing. Ovulation prediction kits work by reading LH surges prior to ovulation. They are relatively easy to use and are generally accurate for predicting ovulation. Fertility monitors, such as the Clear Blue Easy monitor, are also a worthwhile investment if you would like to get pregnant faster. Fertility monitors are similar to ovulation prediction kits in that they read changes in LH but they also read changes in other hormones and don’t require any guesswork for couples. They are easy to use and will tell you when the best time to get pregnant is.

*Use JustMommies' Ovulation Calendar to help you determine when to start testing with an opk.

Tip # 3. To get pregnant faster have sex before ovulation (not after).

Sometimes couples get confused about the best time to have sex in relationship to ovulation. You have a small window of time each month to get pregnant. After a woman ovulates the egg will survive approximately 24 hours. Sperm, on the other hand, will live for up to three to five days. This is why having sex two to three days before ovulation will increase your chances of getting pregnant. Don’t wait until the day you ovulate to have sex. Your partner’s sperm will last longer than your egg and you don’t want to miss an opportunity by waiting.

Tip # 4. Don’t rely on the Calendar method for predicting ovulation.

A lot of couples have heard to have sex around day fourteen of your cycle. This is based on the calendar method and assumes that you have a regular 28-day cycle and ovulate mid-cycle. Although this is better than just picking an arbitrary day to have sex, it is not a very accurate way to predict when you ovulate. Many women do not ovulate on day fourteen and knowing precisely when you ovulate will help you time intercourse better. Ovulation prediction kits, looking at previous months bbt charts, or watching for signs of ovulation will help you to determine when you ovulate.

Tip # 5. If you want to get pregnant faster, don't rely on fertility charting alone to predict ovulation.

 

Fertility Charting is great for tracking your cycle but it does have disadvantages. By the time you can see ovulation on a bbt chart, you have already ovulated. It is good to chart so you can track your cycles, see if you ovulate the same time each month, and also so you can look back on your cycle and see if you timed things right. But if this is your first cycle trying to get pregnant or if you are not ovulating at the same time each month, an ovulation prediction kit would be more helpful.

Tip # 6. Before you start trying to get pregnant see your doctor.

Make sure you are in good health and have had a regular check up from your OBGYN or medical provider. Untreated infections, sexually transmitted diseases, or poor health can affect your chances of getting pregnant. Its good to see a doctor as well as start taking prenatal vitamins prior to trying to conceive.

Mastring Sex Positions

Wheelbarrow, Standing

a.k.a. The Hoover Maneuver

Benefits: Calorie burner because it's so athletic. You can stroll around the house in this position, but draw the shades first.

You enter her as you would in standing, rear entry, but lift her up by the pelvis and have her grip your waist with her legs. Summer camp wheelbarrow races were never this much fun!

Now try this: Ask her to rhythmically squeeze her PC muscles to help her climax.

a.k.a. The Hoover Maneuver

Benefits: Calorie burner because it's so athletic. You can stroll around the house in this position, but draw the shades first.

You enter her as you would in standing, rear entry, but lift her up by the pelvis and have her grip your waist with her legs. Summer camp wheelbarrow races were never this much fun!

Now try this: Ask her to rhythmically squeeze her PC muscles to help her climax.

The Standing Dragon

a.k.a. Crouching Tiger, Hidden Serpent

Benefits: An ideal position for G-spot stimulation. Seeing the round curves of her rear tends to be highly erotic for you.

Stand and enter her from behind as she poses on all fours on the edge of the bed and arches her back to lift her buttocks.

Now try this: With your legs outside of hers, use your thighs to squeeze her knees together, which tightens her vagina around your penis.

Restroom Attendant

a.k.a. Drop the Soap

Benefits: Good for a quickie at a party.

Slip into a bathroom and ask her to look into the mirror while you enter her from behind. It lets you have eye contact during the G-spot-targeting rear-entry position.

The G-Whiz

a.k.a. The Shoulder Holder, The Anvil

Benefits: Allows deep penetration and targeting the G-spot

She lies on her back. You kneel between her legs and raise them, resting her calves over your shoulders. Rock her in a side-to-side and up-and-down motion to bring the head and shaft of your penis in direct contact with the front wall of her vagina. Because this angle allows for deep penetration, thrust slowly at first avoid causing her discomfort.

Now try this: Bring her legs down and have her place her feet on your chest in front of your shoulders. This allows her to control the tempo and depth of thrusts.

Hot Tip — His

Notice her nearing orgasm. You do that by listening for her breath to become short and shallow. Flushed skin and slightly engorged breasts also indicate she's nearing the peak of her arousal.

Seated Wheelbarrow

a.k.a. Wheelbarrow At Rest

Benefits: Less strenuous than the standing varieties, while still offering intense sensation.

Now try this: Try the wheelbarrow while sitting on the edge of a bed or chair. Movement is limited, but penetration is deep.

Hot Tip — His

Make some noise. Explore the deeper sexual response and energy by letting lose with powerful sounds, a roar, perhaps? 

Heir to the Throne(Lazy Girl)

a.k.a. Lazy Girl

Benefits: The ultimate position for oral on the go, use this to get her in the mood and help her cut loose

Have your partner sit on a chair with her legs wide open. You take it from there. This is a good position for either beginning the slow build-up with loose, broad, strokes, or ending with strong suction. Your partner is able to easily guide you, and she's able to get a full view of you between her legs, which is a turn-on for many women.

Now try this: Switch to a swivel chair and turn it left and right as you hold your tongue stationary.

Hot Tip — His

Insert your index and ring fingers and stroke in a "come hither" motion to wake up her G-spot. With either your tongue or other hand, apply pressure to her pubic bone. This dual stimulation executed just right will send her over the edge. 

Closed for Business

Benefits: A variation of One Up that allows for slow buildup.

Some women find direct clitoral stimulation uncomfortable. Having her close her legs during oral sex may help. Place your hand above her public mound applying light pressure, then rub your firm tongue on the area around the clitoris to add indirect stimulation.

Hot Tip — His

During oral sex allow the knuckle of your index finger of your free hand to trail behind your tongue. The contrast between the soft flesh of the tongue and hard bone of the finger will create a pleasing sensation.

The Pretzel

a.k.a. The Pretzel Dip, The Camel Ride

Benefits: The deep penetration of doggy-style while face to face

Kneel and straddle her left leg while she is lying on her left side. She will bend her right leg around the right side of your waist, which will give you access to enter her vagina. For many women, rear entry hurts their backs. This position allows her to lounge comfortably while enjoying deep penetration.

Now try this: Manually stimulate her using your fingers. Or withdraw your penis and, holding the shaft with your left hand, rub the head against her clitoris to bring her to the brink of orgasm then you can reinsert when she wants you inside her.

Hot Tip — Hers

And ask her to direct you, faster, slower, lighter, harder.

Hot Tip — His

Be gentle with her clitoris. It's more sensitive than your penis, so touch lightly at first. Some women even prefer gentle pressure around it rather than direct stimulation. Go soft, then increase speed and pressure

The Lazy Man(The Squat Thrust)

a.k.a. The Squat Thrust

Benefits: Puts her in control; maintains intimacy.

Place pillows behind your back and sit on the bed with legs outstretched. She straddles your waist, feet on the bed. She then bends her knees to lower herself onto you, using one hand to direct your penis in. Just by pressing on the balls of her feet and releasing, she can raise and lower herself on your shaft as slowly or quickly as she pleases.

Now try this: From this position, you both lie back into the Spider position or its more challenging variation The X.

David Copperfield (Trick & Treat)

a.k.a. Trick & Treat

Benefits: This position is the piece de resistance for women who prefer a strong, upward stroking motionBenefits: This position is the piece de resistance for women who prefer a strong, upward stroking motion

Place a pillow under her hips to tilt her pelvis up. Bend her knees so she can place her feet on your shoulder blades.

Now try this: Amplify your oral efforts with a simple sleight-of-hand trick: While you lap away, try using your hands to push gently upward on her abdomen, stretching her skin away from her pubic bone, and helping to coax the head of her clitoris out from beneath the hood.

Hot Tip — His

Let your tongue rest firmly and flat against the full length of her vaginal entrance, then have her move and grind against your tongue.

The Cowgirl (Woman On Top)

a.k.a. Woman On Top

Benefits: Puts her in control. Great for G-spot stimulation.

The woman-on-top position allows for a variety of interesting sights and sensations, and offers her the psychological advantage of taking charge of pace and depth of penetration. Alternate between shallow and deep thrusts. "Shallow will stimulate the front third of the vagina, which is the most sensitive," says sex therapist Rebecca Rosenblat, author of Seducing Your Man.

Now try this: Lie chest to chest, with her stretching her legs out on top of your legs. She should brace her feet on the tops of yours and push off to create a rocking motion that will rub her vulva and clitorial area against your pubic bone for greater pleasure.

Hot Tip — His

It will be easier for her to climax if you stimulate her manually and orally until she is extremely aroused. From the woman-on-top position, have her squat over your face where you can orally stimulate her.

The Hot Seat (The Love Seat, The Man Chair)

a.k.a. The Love Seat, The Man Chair

Benefits: Good G-spot stimulation.

Sit on the edge of the bed or on a chair with your feet on the floor. She turns away and back up onto you, sitting between your legs. She can ride back and forth by pushing off the chair arms or pressing up with her feet. She can control the angle of entry by arching her back and pressing her buttocks into your groin. While doggy-style is about your dominance, The Hot Seat puts her in the driver's seat.

Now try this: She can reach under and stimulate the base of your penis, scrotum, and perineum. Meanwhile, you can reach around and stimulate her nipples.

Hot Tip — His

The best ways to help her get interested in sex when you can tell it's the farthest thing from her mind: Draw her a bubble bath, give her a massage, wrestle.

Face Off (The Lap Dance)

a.k.a. The Lap Dance

Benefits: Allows for face-to-face intimacy; cozy for long sessions.

Sit on a chair or the edge of the bed. She then faces you, wraps her arms around your back, climbs on top, and sits on your lap. Once in the saddle, she can can ride up and down on your penis by pressing with her legs or knees. Want to go faster? Assist by grabbing her buttocks and lifting and bouncing.

Now try this: She can sit astride facing you on a rocking chair. Old wooden rockers on hardwood or stone floors provide the greatest variety of good vibes.

Hot Tip — His

There's lots of room for creativity in this position for stimulating erogenous areas of the upper body, head, neck, and face. If she likes to have her nipples licked, go for it! 

One Up (Over Your Shoulder, The Hamstring Stretch)

a.k.a. Over Your Shoulder, The Hamstring Stretch

Benefits: This position is ideal for women who are particularly sensitive along one side of the clitoris.

Kneel on the floor with her lying on the edge of the bed. Rasie one of her legs and ask her to support her leg by wrapping her hands around her hamstring just below the knee. With one hip raised, she’ll be able to add some movement to aid in your stroking or to help move you to the perfect spot.

Now try this: Encourage her to wriggle a little to help you get the rhythm right.

Hot Tip — Hers

Let him know the tongue pressure and technique you prefer by demonstrating with your mouth on his earlobe.

Hot Tip — His

During oral sex allow the knuckle of your finger to trail behind your tongue the contrast between soft flesh of the tongue and hard bone of the finger will create a pleasing sensation.

Seated Wheelbarrow (Wheelbarrow At Rest)

a.k.a. Wheelbarrow At Rest

Benefits: Less strenuous than the standing varieties, while still offering intense sensation.

Now try this: Try the wheelbarrow while sitting on the edge of a bed or chair. Movement is limited, but penetration is deep.

Hot Tip — His

Make some noise. Explore the deeper sexual response and energy by letting lose with powerful sounds, a roar, perhaps?

The 28 Most Underrated Persons, Places and Things of the Decade

We'll start this list with a disclaimer: The concept of "underrated" is very hard to quantify and often disintegrates under the weight of its own definition. (If something truly lacked recognition, it wouldn't mean anything to a mass audience.) Nevertheless, Asylum and our contributors have bravely attempted to put together a list of the most underrated persons places and things of the decade most commonly known as the "aughts."

If you agree, disagree, or think you can draw up a better list, have a go at it in the comment section.

28. Plus-size models
Have you noticed that many runway models are shaped like underfed boys? On the other hand, most plus-size models look like something a heterosexual male would have sex with. Maybe the fashion industry will split the difference in the decade to come, but we're not holding our breath.

27. The "Open Source" revolution
Open source is more than just Wikipedia and Firefox -- there's a free version of almost every online tool, and the quality of open source is quickly approaching that of the brand names.

26. Ford Motor Company
Lost in the recent failure of the American auto industry -- and American big business in general -- is the success of the Ford Motor Company, which posted a profit of a billion dollars last quarter after refusing to take government money when it was being offered out like Halloween candy. (Now about those Lions ...)

25. Gregg Popovich
Even if he hadn't coached his San Antonio Spurs to three non-consecutive, titles in the aughts, Pop should get more attention simply for the fabulous white beard he sometimes sports.

24. Indoor smoking bans
If you don't smoke, when was the last time you returned home from a night on the town with the stench of nicotine embedded in your hair and clothes? That was pretty much the norm before indoor smoking bans started slowly overtaking the American map.

23. E-Z Pass
With cars getting bigger and more plentiful, traffic is only getting worse. While an E-Z Pass is far from a guarantee against getting held up on the highway, it does help. And, as you slide right through the unmanned toll both, it is always a surprise to see how many money-in-hand motorists are still wasting time in line.

22. The NHL
Ask a hockey fan (if you can find one) and he will probably tell you that the NHL, which is more or less without a national TV contract, is as exciting as it has ever been.

21. Nevada political sex scandals
While quite a few politicians got caught with their pants down in the aughts, the national press just about completely whiffed on two great late-decade sex scandals in Nevada. One involved current governor Jim Gibbons, a cocktail waitress, a car and a rainy night, and the other featured current senator John Ensign, his mistress and his parents, who paid off the mistress. They would have been fun, and now it's too late.

20. Domestic beer that isn't "lite."
Come on, frat boys, we thought the whole idea of drinking cheap swill is so everyone gets drunk quickly, not to watch calories.

19. Mila Kunis
A quick scan of her upcoming projects suggests the stunning raven-haired actress is about to become an A-lister. But it took a good 10 years for Hollywood to realize that Kunis was the biggest talent among her "That '70s Show" castmates.

18. Nintendo Wii
It might not be for hardcore gamers, but the Nintendo Wii was the console that finally integrated real-life body movement into game play. While the Wii has certainly sold a lot of units, it never really got credit for the long-awaited step into the future that it was.

17. Tiger Woods's libido
Even those among us who had heard whispers of Tiger's infidelity would have never guessed the world's number one golfer had it in him to juggle 15-and-counting mistresses.

16. Willie Nelson
76 years old and still doing at least 100 shows and two albums a year. Even if it's just for the tax man, bandannas off to the redheaded stranger.

15. Real brick-and-glass video/record stores
If nothing else, they continue to be a great source for movie plots.

14. "The 25th Hour"
Since he's always been part hypeman, it's hard to believe a Spike Lee film could ever be underrated. However, 2002's excellent "25th Hour" barely made a splash when it was released in 2002, despite an interesting plot, a great look and sound, and stellar acting from Ed Norton, Phillip Seymour Hoffman, Barry Pepper, Brian Cox and Rosario Dawson.

13. Bernie Sanders
Senator Bernie Sanders isn't one of those secret socialists we keep hearing about. No, the iconoclast from Vermont is actually willing to put the scarlet S next to his name. Sure, the only reason he keeps getting elected (and not threatened with deportation) is because he personally knows everyone in his tiny home state. But it's an impressive feat, nonetheless.

12. Craigslist
Sometimes something can be so game-changing that even in the midst of universal acclaim it is underrated. Google, which made search a home appliance, is close to fitting this bill. But we're going with Craigslist, which completely revolutionized the classified ad, and did irreparable damage to the floundering newspaper industry.

11. The Black Keys
Simple rock that simply rocks.

10. Global warming's benefits
Maybe global warming will eventually wreck havoc on the planet, maybe it won't, maybe it already is, but during the past decade, the extra point-whatever degrees of heat just meant women had more excuses to wear less clothing.

9. Adult Swim
In the '90s, "The Simpsons" and "South Park" proved cartoons were for more than just kids. In the aughts, Adult Swim, a highly rated but generally under-the-radar nightly block of programming on the Cartoon Network, proved animation can be for anybody but kids.

8. Harold and Kumar
Perhaps it's because marijuana isn't as subversive as it once was, but the glazy-eyed duo should be every bit as popular as Cheech and Chong were in their heyday, but have yet to come close.

7. Mandy Moore
We were as surprised as anyone when the pretty singer/actress, who's career began right at the turn of the century, came up as the most searched woman of this decade's last year.

6. Little Caesar's Hot-n-Ready pizza deal
What if we were to tell you that you could roll into a pizzeria and purchase a large pie that will be ready in less than five minutes and cost about five bucks? Would that be something you are interested in?

5. Sugarless gum
Competition in the premium sugarless gum market between Orbit, Dentyne and Trident produced a plethora of greater-tasting, longer-lasting flavors, none of which promote tooth decay.

4. Sam Rockwell
As star or a supporting actor, in movies big or small, Rockwell is always a compelling figure. He usually gets his due from the critics, but why isn't this guy more of a household name?

3. Pittsburgh
It wasn't so long ago that Pittsburgh was a symbol of industrial decline. Thanks to a modernized economic base, smart urban renewal and affordable real estate, the Steel City has moved to the top of the list for the most livable American cities. Something the public, which still ranks Pittsburgh as a place they wouldn't want to live, has yet to realize.

2. Butter
In this decade of bacon fetishization, we've lost sight of butter, the original foodstuff that makes almost anything taste much better.

1. The missionary position
Just because it doesn't make for the most titillating video visuals, it doesn't mean you shouldn't be doing it at home.

What was the most underrated person, place or thing of the decade?


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37 Howard Stern Facts (Cool Material)
Most Gruesome Sports Injuries (Bleacher Report)
Sexy Androids, Drunken Spider Man and More (I-Am-Bored)
Crazy Russians (College Humor)

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The lights are low. A fire smolders in the fireplace. Two wineglasses sit, half empty, on the nightstand. Your clothes lie in a heap on the floor. You reach for each other. The two of you tumble to the bed, and then…
Blah.
No explosions of passion. No breathy proclamations of desire. No tumultuous climax. To put it bluntly, the sex just isn’t that good.
And then you wonder: How can everyone in movies and romance novels be having fiery, combustible sex, when you and your partner can barely create a spark?
“TV shows and movies give us this very skewed representation of what sex is supposed to be like,” says Logan Levkoff, PhD, a sexologist, relationship expert, and author of the ebook How To Get Your Wife to Have Sex With You. “Everyone seems to be climaxing and having orgasms all the time from whatever they’re doing, and I think when you grow up on a diet of that, when your real life doesn’t match, you think, ‘There’s something wrong with me,’ or, ‘There’s something wrong with my partner.’”
Real-life sex can almost never measure up to the passion portrayed on the screen, says Isadora Alman, MFT, a California-based sex therapist. “People don’t talk about the fact that it’s likely that in an odd position you’ll pass gas, or the love of your life will take you in his arms and have bad breath.”
Sex in the real world isn’t perfect, and it doesn’t always end with an earth-shattering climax — but it doesn’t have to, Levkoff says. “Good sex doesn’t necessarily have to be about an orgasm. It can just be an emotionally fulfilling experience between partners.”
No matter how blah your sex life may be, it can get better. The key, say our experts, is to know exactly what you want — and then ask for it.

Getting what you want in bed
You like long foreplay sessions. Your partner is ready to go in an instant. You long for wet, sensual kisses. He prefers dry, chaste pecks. Your partner needs sex twice a day. You can’t handle it more than three times a week.
Even when everything else in the relationship is working, sexual styles aren’t always compatible. That’s especially true for new couples.
“Sex is not just naturally perfect,” Alman says. “There is the energy of a new relationship that is positive — the excitement and the eagerness and the passion. And the negative is that you bump noses or knees because you just haven’t learned how to dance together yet.”
Even long-term couples can struggle in the bedroom. Though we can easily tell our partner what shirt we’d like them to wear, or what we’d like them to cook for dinner, on the topic of sex we tend to get tongue-tied.
“People tend to be very sensitive when it comes to talking about sex. They’re afraid of hurting their partner’s feelings, so they don’t tell them what they like or don’t like,” says Rachel Sussman, LCSW, a relationship and family therapist in New York, and author of The Breakup Bible. “You’re not going to get it unless you ask for it.”
So how do you tell your partner what you want without bruising his or her ego? “I think it’s really in how you bring up the statement,” Levkoff says. “‘I would love it if we’ … or, ‘Could we try this?’ … You don’t want to make them feel badly about what they’ve done or haven’t done.” You can have that conversation in bed, or at dinner over a glass of wine — wherever is most comfortable for you.
Before you talk, you need to know exactly what about your sex life bothers you. Is it a question of technique? Personal hygiene? Timing? “Once you know what isn’t working for you, there are ways you can suggest that can mitigate those circumstances,” Alman says.
For example, if something about your partner’s smell is turning you off, suggest taking a bath together before making love. If you crave more foreplay, ask for slower segues into sex.
Before you can tell your partner what you want him/her to do in bed, you need to know what you like. “I think especially for women, they’ve got to explore their own bodies. You have to masturbate. Get a vibrator. Get some books. Teach yourself how to orgasm,” Sussman says.
Once you’ve figured out what you want and shared it with your partner, what if your sex life continues to be dull or unfulfilling? What if it’s so bad that it’s threatening your relationship?

When it’s just not working
After you’ve tried talking and the sex still isn’t working, what then?
“Experiment together,” Sussman says. “Learn to get to know each other’s bodies.” Try some sex aids. Read books with pictures (such as The Joy of Sex), or watch an educational video together, Alman recommends. Not porn, but explicit videos in which a voice-over explains what’s happening in the scenes.
Sometimes the problem is a physical one, such as premature ejaculation. Or it may be that the stress from your job is bleeding over into the bedroom and disrupting your sex life.
In those cases it can help to see a sex therapist. “We unravel why you two are not getting along,” Alman says. “And then we try to remedy that.”
If you’re still unsatisfied, is it ever OK to fake it in bed? Our experts say no.
“If you’re faking it, you’re doing yourself a disservice because you’re not learning what really turns you on,” Sussman says. “I think eventually, it takes a toll. Your partner’s going to realize that you’re disconnected.”
Can sex ever be bad enough to consider ending a relationship over? Possibly.
“You might really love somebody and the sex is never going to be better than OK. You have to decide whether that’s livable with,” Alman says. “The fact is, in many cases you have to either accept that the sex is never going to be mind-blowing … or you have to leave.”
Whenever you’re considering a breakup or divorce, you need to weigh every element of the relationship, and not just the sex. “You can’t have everything in life,” Sussman says. “If you have a wonderful relationship and you love each other and you have kids but the sex isn’t great … maybe you can live with that.”
In most cases, though, you shouldn’t have to break up or settle for mediocre sex, as long as you’re willing to put a little effort into it. Sussman says every couple has the potential to have good sex.
“If you’re two emotionally and physically healthy people, you should be able to work with what you’ve got. Not everybody needs to be hanging off the chandelier,” Sussman says. “You can get better. But you have to practice, and you have to be open to discussing it and getting help when you need it.”

5 Best positions to get pregnant fast

Getting pregnant maybe the easiest of all things, however, some couples do find it hard to conceive for several reasons, including weak or insufficient sperm count.

In some cases, as when nature needs a boost, a little push from you and your partner can go a long way in getting pregnant. When it comes to the best position to get pregnant, the general rule is that the male sperm must be deposited as near to the female cervix as possible.


This has something to do with the life spans of the female egg and the male sperm. Once an egg is released from the ovary - a stage also known as ovulation - it begins its path down the fallopian tube to the uterus. A released egg typically survives for only 24 hours, while a sperm can last anywhere from three to five days in the female body. As such, the egg has to be as close to the egg as possible so they can meet and join before the egg dies.
While not a lot of people will agree that the sexual positions have anything to do with getting pregnant, the logical inference is that it makes sense to assume the position that can help the sperm meet the egg in the shortest possible time.
This is especially true when for couples who have problems or difficulty conceiving. Having said this, the first "best position to get pregnant" tip is to avoid positions that least expose the cervix to the male sperm, and that generally defy gravity such as sex while standing up, sitting down, or with the woman on top. When trying to conceive, it is best to limit the amount of sperm that flows back out of the vagina.
The woman's hips should also be positioned in such a way that the sperm released is kept inside, giving it enough time to swim up to the female cervix.

Consider the following positions instead:
1. The missionary position. Or man-on-top is said to be the position that's best for getting pregnant. This is because this particular position allows for the deepest possible penetration, making it possible for the sperm to get deposited closest to the cervix.

2. Raise the hips. Elevating the hips, which can be done by placing a pillow behind her, can also be helpful because this exposes the female cervix to as much semen as the male can release.

3. Doggy-style. The rear-entry position where the man enters the woman from behind is also a recommended position. In this position, sperm is also deposited closest to the cervix, thereby helping increase the chances of conception.

4. Side-by-side. You can also try having intercourse while lying side by side. This position likewise causes the most exposure of the cervix to the male sperm.

5. Orgasms. Finally, while this has nothing to do with sexual positions, there are also researches that suggest the importance of the female orgasm in conceiving. According to studies, female orgasm leads to contractions that could push sperm up into the cervix.

The lesson: have fun while trying to conceive.

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When I was a kid, I used to Go

"When I was a kid, I used to go over to friend's houses and notice that their parents never seemed to bully them or hit them." When I was 11, in 7th grade, I had dinner at a friend's house; the first time I can remember having dinner anywhere that wasn't my parents' house or my grandparents'. And I was astounded to realize that at my friend's house, when the kids were hurt or needed comforting or needed some calomine lotion on their poison ivy, the adults thought it was the responsibility of the adults to take care of the kids. And I was so used to taking care of myself and not expecting the adults around me to take care of me - because no one did - that I freaked a little, inside, and didn't know what to do when my friend's mom put calomine on my poison ivy. And I've kind of always had trouble receiving help or comfort or whatever from other people - and I'm 65 now. So it's really important to talk about this stuff, whether it's the emotional distance thing or the how you do sex thing, or whatever. Talk about your experience and figure out what's your assumptions. Lynn

This is How Rape Culture Feels

1.
when it’s dark
and late
and i’m walking alone
my body is
whirring in time with my frantic heartbeat
and in my mind
the news broadcaster is telling me thatone in three women will be a
victim 
of sexual assault in their lifetime -
well, i went out with two other girls tonight
so which one does that make me?

2.
arms crossed
head down
walk fast
no streetlights?
cross the street
keys between fingers
cell phone in hand
thinking,
it’s so hard to move quickly
in such a goddamn tight dress. 

3.
numbers, figures, stories -
they roll off your tongue in conversation
and you sometimes forget that
each
statistic-victim-survivor-horrorstory
was
brutally
brutally
brutally
created
a third of women
will have something fucked from inside them,
adam cracking eve’s chest to pluck an excess rib for himself
taken just because he could
just to store away and rub and polish

4.
this feeling is the kind of unclean
that no amount of showers can fix. 

5.
and then,
the questions -
why were you walking alone?
why didn’t you catch a cab?
why were you dressed the way you were dressed?
why didn’t you scream?
why didn’t you run?
why didn’t you fight?
and as you feel your tongue recoil with the hot blast of shame, you think -
why don’t you ask them why they burnt a part of me to the ground
and spat on the ashes?

6.
you don’t have to tell us
that not all men are
“like that” -we have fathers, brothers, male lovers too
but statistically,
more of you are
“like that”
than you care to admit
and sometimes, we do not know if we are stepping into
dante’s inferno
or
grandmother’s cottage
until we are well and truly through the door

7.
if you can try and feel me up
in a crowded train at peak hour
i shudder to think what you would do
had you come across me walking home alone

8.
if you claim that you are “neutral”
when it comes to rape culture -
that men shouldn’t rape
but women shouldn’t dress like sluts
and yes, rape is wrong, but what if it’s a misunderstanding -
then you are as far away from neutral
as i want to be from you
neutrality is something
that you can feel
when someone asks,
“do you like glee?”
or
“would you like some more cake?”
it is not, however
an appropriate response
- a humane response -
to the questions of
“do you think people ever ask to be raped?”
and
“if they didn’t say no, that means it’s ok, right?”
your silence
your “neutrality”
is as hurtful as the hands
that so many women have been
invaded by
held down by
pushed up a fence, fingers in mouth, torn apart by

9.
No, I’m not interested in giving you my number.
I hope you understand. 

By Coco Sandes

Heartiest Thanks to Coco Sandes

Disability and Sex

I have been doing some research on sex and disability, and thought I would share some of the links I have found. This will be useful for me in the future as a resource, and hopefully to others too.


Disability and Sex General Links

• Disability Dharma: What Including & Learning From Disability Can Teach (Everyone) About Sex
• How to Meet, Date and Have Sex When You’re Disabled
• Sexual Pleasure & the Disabled Adult
• Disability and Body Image
• Sex and Disability
• Good Sex Positions for Disabled Sex
• Let’s Get Physical
• Disability and Orgasm: Your Orgasmic Potential
• Practical Sex Tips for Disabled People
• No Big Deal: Sex & Disability
• Self-Advocates Speak Up About Sex
• Sexuality and Disability Myths and Facts
• Disabled and No Sexual Pleasure
• Sex, Disability and the DSP: Ethically Supporting Sexual Choices
• Sex and Disability: Impacts of Disability on Sex
• Sexual Expression for Adults with Disabilities: The Role of Guardianship
• Disability and Sexual Activity: The Mechanics of it All
• Contraception for People with Disabilities
• Disabled? Discovering Your Sexual Self
• Lesbian, Gay and Bisexual
• Talking About Sensitive Topics
• Personal Relationships and People with Physical Disabilities
• Physical Problems and Female Sexual Dysfunction
• Talking about Disability on a Date
• Lovers with Disabilities Become Liberated with Tantric Sex
• My Partner is Scared to Try
• Getting Assistance: Having Sex and Using Your Sex Toy
• Physical Disability and Sexual Intercourse
• A Sexuality Policy That Truly Supports People with Disabilities
• Two Lovers With Disabilities Need Help
• How to Meet, Date and “Do It” When You’re Disabled
• Sex and Disability Webliography
• Eli Clare - Challenging Our Differences
  
  Sex, Disability and Young People
• Sex Education for Physically Disabled Teenagers
• Growing Up: A teachers’s guide to Sex and Relationships Education for Young People with Physical Disabilities
• Sex and Your Child with a Disability
• Talking about sex and relationships: the views of young people with learning disabilities
• Sexuality Education for Children and Adolescents with Developmental Disabilities
• Sexuality and Persons with Disabilities
• Sexuality Meets Intellectual Disability: What Every Parent Should Know
• Sexuality and Cystic Fibrosis: Information for Adolescents
  
  Medications and Sex
• Sexual Side Effects of Medications: How prescription and OTC medications can have sexual side effects
  Effects of Medications on Female Sexual Response
• Researching Sexual Side Effects of Prescription Medications
• Sexual Side Effects of Prescription Medications
• How To Manage Sexual Side Effects of Prescription Medications
• Physical Sexual Side Effects of Medications
  
  Disability and Sex Toys
• Top 10 Ideas on Adapting Sex Toys
• Making Sex Toys Accessible
• Sex Toys and Disability
• Disability and Sex Toys
• Research Before Adapting Sex Toys
• Accessible Sex Toys
• Adapting Toys for Decreased Sensation
• Adapting Toys for Increased Sensation
• Fatigue and Sex Toys
• Adapting Toys for Mobility and Motor Control
• Paraplegic Sex and Quadriplegic Sex: Good Vibrations
• Adapting Sex Toys for Privacy
• Sex Toy Accessibility Checklist
• Adapting Sex Toys for Fatigue
• Sex Toys and Allergies
  
  Fatigue and Sex
• Sex and Fatigue: How Do You Stay Sexual When You Have No Energy for Sex?
• Sex and Fatigue
• Your Sex Drive With Fibromyalgia & Chronic Fatigue Syndrome
• Fatigue and Sex Toys
• Sex, Fatigue and Depression
• Adapting Sex Toys for Fatigue
  
  Multiple Sclerosis and Sex
• Multiple Sclerosis & Sex
• My husband has MS and doesn’t like sex anymore. Why?
• My wife has MS and doesn’t want to have sex anymore. Why not and what can I do?
• Multiple Sclerosis and Sexual Problems
• Top 10 Sex Tips for Men with Multiple Sclerosis
• Sex and Multiple Sclerosis
  
  Arthritis and Sex
• Love, Sex and Arthritis
• Sex and Arthritis
  
  Spinal Cord Injury and Sex
• The ABCs of Sex After Spinal Cord Injury
• Sexuality in Spinal Injury: The spinal cord injured female: Orgasm
• Sexuality in Spinal Injury: The spinal cord injured female: Fertility, Childbirth and Contraception
• Sexuality in Spinal Injury: The spinal cord injured female: Sexual Behaviour and Activity
• Best Sex Positions for Spinal Cord Injured Women
• User’s Guide to the Paralyzed Penis: Sex after Spinal Cord Injury
• Paraplegic Sex and Quadriplegic Sex: Good Vibrations
• Sexuality in Spinal Injury: the spinal cord injured male: Erections
• Sexuality in Spinal Injury: the spinal cord injured male: Ejaculation, Orgasm and Coitus
• Sexuality in Spinal Injury: the spinal cord injured male: Sexual Drive and Activity
• Intercourse & Pleasure With a Spinal Cord Injury
• Sexuality and Fertility - Impact on Men with SCI
• Sexuality and Fertility - Impact on Women with SCI
  
  Cancer and Sex
• Cancer and Sex: How Cancer Affects Your Sex Life
• Intimacy and Sexuality for cancer patients and their partners
  
  Diabetes and Sex
• Sex and Diabetes
• Diabetes and Sex: Does It Have to Doom Your Sex Life?
• Sexuality and Diabetes
• Erectile Dysfunction Treatments for Patients with Diabetes
  
  Fibromyalgia and Sex
• Fibromyalgia and Your Sex Life
  
  Parkinson’s Disease and Sex
• Parkinson’s Disease and Your Sex Drive
• Parkinson’s Disease and Sex
  
  ALS / Lou Gehrig’s Disease and Sex
• ALS & Your Sex Life
  
  Learning Disabilities and Sex
• Talking about sex and relationships: the views of young people with learning disabilities
• Sex and Learning Disabilities
• Sexuality Meets Intellectual Disability: What Every Parent Should Know
  
  Ostomy and Sex
• Sex and the Person with an Ostomy
  
  Continence and Sex
• Continence and Sex
  
  Cystic Fibrosis and Sex
• Sexuality and Cystic Fibrosis: Information for Adolescents
• Sexuality, Fertility and Cystic Fibrosis: Information for Adults
  
  Back Pain and Sex
• Sex Tips for Back Pain Sufferers
• Ways to Enjoy Sex While Helping Your Back
  
  Augmentative and Alternative Communication and Sex
• Promoting Healthy Sexuality and Safeguarding in Youth who Use Augmentative and Alternative Communication (AAC)
• Sexual Health Education for AAC Users - Speak Up Findings
• Promoting Healthy Sexuality and Safeguarding in Youth who use Augmentative and Alternative Communication (AAC)
• Sexual Health: Knowledge and Skills for People who Use AAC
• Sexual Health Issues for People who Use AAC

A Very Short Guide To Giving A Blowjob

So I actually get the blowjob question fairly often, both in real life and on here, so I’m putting this out as rebloggable because, hey, it’s useful. So, assuming that both you and your partner consent (sometimes people don’t like giving or receiving blowjobs, and that’s OK), here’s a step-by-step guide to blowjob-giving.

Step 1: Ask what they like. If they don’t know what they like (haven’t tried it before or something), tell them to give you feedback and tell you what they like or don’t like as you go down on them. If they do know what they like, they should still give you suggestions because you will only be better if you know what they want.
Step 2: Locate penis, remove from confined space. Usually you’ll want to do this with accompanying foreplay, which is kissing or touching that gets everyone in the mood.
Step 3: (The following steps are all part of the blowjob process and can be interchanged, varied, rejected, or added to as need be)

• Sucking the tip
• Licking the tip
• Sucking as much as you can in
• Licking in patterns
• Licking like an ice cream cone
• Licking with the tip or flat of your tongue
• Kissing in different places
• Using your hands
• Licking/sucking/touching/kissing the balls
• Licking/sucking/touching/kissing right behind the balls
• Using your hands on other parts of the body while doing everything else
• Your partner touching themselves at the same time
• Humming

Step 4: The general idea is that you are trying to mimic intercourse, so making a bobbing motion with your head and stroking with your hands are both good ideas. If you’re up to it (it can set off your gag reflex), they can try thrusting into your mouth.
Step 5: Vary what you do and experiment!
Step 6: Decide whether or not you want to spit or swallow or have them let go somewhere else. Where the cum goes depends on what you want. A lot of people describe semen as salty or bitter, but it can also be sort of savory or sour. It depends on the person.
Step 7: Aftercare! Cuddling! Whatever makes you both feel good. That can be kissing or sleeping or whatever it is that makes you both happy.
Answers to common questions:

• You do not want to get rid of your gag reflex entirely, because it is what keeps you from choking to death. You can reduce your gag reflex by relaxing, breathing through your nose, holding your left thumb tightly in your fist, or humming, or by training it away by brushing your tongue and moving farther back each time.
• If you have a strong gag reflex, use your hands. Actually, using your hands in general is a good idea, because they’re a lot more flexible than your jaw.
• Not everyone can deep throat, and that’s OK.
• Blowjobs take practice - being “a natural” at them is actually highly unlikely. It’s OK if you need to take a time out while you’re going down on someone, or if it takes you a while to be able to finish one.
• Never practice on food, especially bananas, because it can break off in your mouth and choke you.

—BB

What Is The Best Position For Baby Making?

While there is no scientific evidence to prove that one position is better than any other, anecdotal evidence suggests that the missionary position might help improve your chances of getting pregnant. This is where the man lies on top of the woman. The position allows the man to penetrate deeply, so that he can deposit semen as far as possible into the vagina so that sperm has less distance to travel. For maximum penetration try wrapping your legs around your partner's back - this will help ensure nothing seeps out when he ejaculates. Also,try placing a small pillow under your hips, this is another tip for helping you retain all of the semen. Once the fun is over, remain lying down for a few minutes. This allows the semen to rest and pool in the cervix area. Meanwhile, one position to avoid is the woman sitting on top of the man - it's defies gravity. Once he ejaculates the sperm is likely to run out of your body instead of heading in the opposite direction towards your egg.


Don't Forget To Have Fun!
Although you may be anxious to fall pregnant, try to remember that sex isn't just for baby making or shouldn't be reserved just for when you ovulate. Making love because you feel like it is good for your relationship and particularly good for your partner's ego. Besides, many women manage to conceive outside of their most fertile days. So try to forget any deadlines you have set yourself and allow yourself time out from 'trying' from time to time. Enjoy the love and passion for its own sake and not just as a means to baby making.
NOTE: If you have been trying for a baby with no success for over a year (and have been having regular sex, that means 2 or 3 times a week), you should consider talking to your doctor about fertility tests. If you aged over 35, you should do so after trying for 6 months.
Stopping Contraception To Fall Pregnant
How long does it take to get pregnant after stopping the Pill?
When is it safe to get pregnant after stopping the Pill?
Testing For Infertility
Female diagnostic tests How does a doctor test for infertility in women?
Male diagnostic tests How does a doctor test for infertility in men?
Fertility Tips And Advice
Natural therapies and techniques How can I increase my fertility naturally?
Statistics on falling pregnant How long does it take to get pregnant?
Age and fertility What age does fertility go down in women?

When You Think You're Pregnant
When you think you are imagining things Is it possible to be a little bit pregnant?
Understanding early pregnancy complications What is a chemical pregnancy?
• Got another question? See: Womens Health Questions or see our Guide To Infertility.

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